Change... Let's Talk About It

Change is hard. Whether it’s moving to a new place, ending a relationship, starting a new job or leaving your current one, it’s not always easy. But just because it’s hard, doesn’t mean that it’s the wrong thing. And that’s something I’ve learned a lot about lately.

Very recently, I went through a breakup, and I won’t get into the details of it, but it was really hard. I immediately regretted it, I was an emotional wreck, it was bad. Just because I felt all of these things though doesn’t mean I made the wrong decision. I leaned into God to find comfort in my pain and peace in my decision. God’s plan is much better than mine, and it’s also worth the wait. He sees things in the future that we don’t. Letting go of any relationship for that matter is hard when they were a part of your daily life. It’s very similar to the feeling of losing a family member or friend. It’s essentially the death of a big part of your life. So, all of these feelings I initially was feeling were completely normal. It's essentially growing pains. But every single day, I felt a little better. I started to smile again. I started to laugh. I started to have fun again with my friends. I got closer to my family. I improved my relationship with God. I’m in a lot better place. I don’t have any regrets.

I also remember the change I felt when I moved to Tallahassee from home. That was hard, moving away from my family, moving away from the town I knew so well. I was comfortable, and change changed that. But with Jesus, I found comfort in the uncomfortable. I learned it’s okay to not know the next step, that’s God’s job. I made friends, I built a community here, and now I’m even happier than I was when I was home. Going back even further, in high school, I lost a lot of close friendships, and that was also really hard. Friendship breakups are painful too! But, starting at FSU, I found the good Godly community I so badly prayed for when I lived at home. I craved deep spiritual connections with my friends, and I didn’t have that. God answered my prayers, it just wasn’t when I expected it. He placed in my life the people I needed at just the right time. Another change I experienced was moving to Switzerland to study abroad for a part of the summer knowing practically no one. I went from comfortable to scared out of my mind. But studying abroad changed me as a person for the better. I’m a lot more confident than I was before I left, and I’m super passionate about that. I can yap about all the positives of studying abroad all day long.

Anyways, I believe all of these changes, while not easy initially, helped shape me into the person God wants me to be. We are all constantly changing. Some for the better, some for the worst. But, if you are a follower of Christ, we should always be striving to become the person God has created us to be. We are constantly growing and learning. And that’s a beautiful thing. We make mistakes, and we learn from them so that we don’t make the same mistakes in the future. We overcome the difficult aspects of change with time. We grieve, we heal, and we move on. So yes, change is not always easy. Yes, it can take some time to adjust. Yes, sometimes you didn’t ask for it. But, one day, you’ll look back and realize it was all for the better. One day you’ll see that God worked it out, and you’ll realize the “why” behind the change. You’ll see that God sent you to a different city because your dream job is there or your future spouse is there. You’ll see that God wanted you to end your relationship because He has even better things in store for both of you. You’ll see that God ended your friendships because they weren’t healthy to your soul, and He wanted to open your heart up to healthy friendships. You see? The common thing in all of these is it takes time to see God’s vision for your life. Most of the time, you don’t know the “why” behind the change during it, but you will one day. Or maybe you do know the “why,” but that doesn’t make it easier.

Change is hard, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong or it’s bad. As followers of Jesus, we’re not supposed to be comfortable. We’re supposed to be constantly in tune to His voice and listening when it’s time to do something. I encourage you that if you’re walking through change right now, I promise that it will get better. Lean into Jesus to find comfort and peace. Trust that His will will be done and that His plan is better than yours. You’re going to be okay. God’s got you. You may feel like you’re barely holding on, but God is holding onto you. There is peace in that.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I'm still walking through some change myself, but I've seen the Lord be faithful, and I've seen the light at the end of the tunnel in my past changes, so I know He's gonna get me through this one too. He is faithful, AND He is consistent.

I hope this brings some hope to you in whatever you may be walking through. Maybe it's similar to something I mentioned in here of what I've gone through, or maybe it's some other change I didn't mention. Regardless of what it is, God is above it all. My DMs are open on Instagram if you would like to chat @julespace05 or if you need some prayer. YOU GOT THIS & GOD'S GOT YOU!!! See ya next time!